To all Parents,
Take a moment to consider your actions and the resulting consequences. Specifically, consider what happens to your kids when every time they have a conflict with a teacher or coach you bail them out. Every time they come into contact with difficult adults (and they will) you try to change their situation. You try to get the coach fired, switch classes, switch schools, churches, clubs, etc. What happens when you are constantly allowing them to avoid being taught and coached by adults they don't like (adults who are probably really awesome people but just like everyone else in life will sometimes not agree with everyone, see your child).
Here is what happens to those kids:
-They see that every time a conflict arises there is no need to develop conflict resolution skills.
-They see that everyone who disagrees with them is wrong and that there is not even a chance that they have done something wrong.
-They learn that instead of sticking it out, just run to a new situation.
-They learn that they are the center of the universe and everyone else must conform to their desires.
-They learn that when they have a problem at work they can simply bail and find a new job.
-They don't learn that sometimes life is hard and that the "grass is not typically greener" and that life is not perfect.
-They learn that peace and satisfaction can be found if they just keep looking hard enough for the perfect situation instead of learning that they can't change other people, only themselves.
-They learn to be dissatisfied.
-They learn to switch churches whenever something doesn't please them just the way they feel they deserved to be treated.
-They learn (MOST CONCERNING to ME) that everyone should exist to please them and when their marriage hits a rough patch and they haven't been taught coping and resolving skills they leave and quit.
-They see that every time a conflict arises there is no need to develop conflict resolution skills.
-They see that everyone who disagrees with them is wrong and that there is not even a chance that they have done something wrong.
-They learn that instead of sticking it out, just run to a new situation.
-They learn that they are the center of the universe and everyone else must conform to their desires.
-They learn that when they have a problem at work they can simply bail and find a new job.
-They don't learn that sometimes life is hard and that the "grass is not typically greener" and that life is not perfect.
-They learn that peace and satisfaction can be found if they just keep looking hard enough for the perfect situation instead of learning that they can't change other people, only themselves.
-They learn to be dissatisfied.
-They learn to switch churches whenever something doesn't please them just the way they feel they deserved to be treated.
-They learn (MOST CONCERNING to ME) that everyone should exist to please them and when their marriage hits a rough patch and they haven't been taught coping and resolving skills they leave and quit.
Parents: If you value your kids success and prosperity over their happiness, allow your kids to deal with difficult adults now, because they will be doing it the rest of their lives.
